supongo que estamos de enhorabuena porque el manual oficial de psiquiatría de EUAN aka Estados Unidos de América del Norte cambiará tarde o temprano…

"Con mi mano / una y otra vez… ay qué barbaridad el no controlar… la forma de parar" (Bêbê). Lástima que ya no haya más.

la semana pasada tuve sexo vainilla. categorías para llamar a las cosas que antes eran normales y ahora son insípidas. uno, mi amante vainilla. otra, una mujer, una amiga, que me hizo el honor de ser su primera mujer. y yo sigo buscando algo más. incluso ella me apuntó que era tan tímida. hoy he conocido a alguien nuevo y que sabe lo que busco. que me lo tomo en serio hasta el punto de someterme absolutamente a alguien para crecer. gracias por decírmelo. pero no me gustas. pero me ha pillado dos veces. pero no me siento a gusto con él, pobre. y sin embargo le doy vueltas. al bajar del autobús he pensado de nuevo en p, en la primera vez que agaché las orejas y me dominó, cuando me negaba a decir basta con la fusta. p sabe dominar pero no quiere, prefiere follar. podría educar perfectamente a alguien y también sabe captar estados de ánimo. pero no quiere. joder. qué rabia. mientras no sé qué hacer. le recuerdo, rememoro cada instante de nuestros encuentros. y no dejo de pensar en él aunque sepa que me torea y que le odio.

quedaremos para que tú te distraigas mientras yo te sirvo

para eso faltan varios días pero el saberlo me calma, me serena

no puedo permitirme no disfrutar de mi vida a expensas del placer que me des

así que aparco el blog hasta después

A propósito del feminismo, bueno, se hace camino al andar, vamos a ver si consigo dar alguna pincelada de por qué lo veo así. Me topo con , un texto a propósito de las mujeres y los varones frente al porno de una actriz y bloguera que me ha encantado descubrir hoy: doña Sequoia Redd

Instead of being inspired by abusive gang bangs, semen facials or double penetration garbage, these people are being inspired to masturbate to beautiful, artistic images of healthy, natural women. What is wrong with that? They are revolutionizing the concept of what sexy is. That’s how it improves the lot of women in the world. It inspires people to see the sex appeal in the real, everyday woman, not just the surgically enhanced porn star. It inspires normal women to see the beauty and sexiness inside themselves instead of trying to relate to the unrealistic standards set by the mainstream sex industry.

“A man watching the Abbywinters.com sex display said that he loved the site for a simple reason: “No fake boobs and more pubic hair.” A man who had just gotten a signed photo from a performer at the Hustler booth said he loved porn women for a simple reason: “They are like a fucking sculpture.” The slightly different preferences were trivial; more important was the fact that both men had bags full of pictures and DVDs that would mostly likely be wanking material that evening.”

Slightly different? That’s like saying the nutritional differences between home grown organic produce and fast food from McDonalds are “slightly different”. One genre of pornography promotes plastic surgery, makeup and misogyny whereas the other promotes healthy, natural and real women. There is a vast difference. Why denote the value of something by how someone feels inspired by it, sexually? Masturbation is a healthy practice, this not unknown, many medical studies support this.

Why do we as a people still view sexuality as such a low, dirty subject? Its apart of everyday life, its apart of the human experience at its core. I think the more we try and push it down and hide it, the more trash bad porno companies get to produce.

The solution here is not to censor the mainstream porno industry because we don’t agree with their standard of sexuality, but to open it up to more genres (as AW, ISM, IFM and BA have started) and make it more accessible for people. Talk about it, create discussions for it. Censorship has never been a good solution to any problem, the only way to truly solve issues is to face them and start getting answers to questions like: Why does misogynistic porn sell? Why is the porno industry a multi-trillion dollar industry? Why does almost every porn flick on the market today end in a semen facial? Does it fall back on primitive, cave man behavior? What is it about a woman getting pounded and slapped by a penis that really turns men on? Is it their insecurities about sexuality? Does it metaphorically weaken the woman, therefore making her less of a threat to the man? Does a video which displays what is seen as a sexy women getting sexually humiliated, berated and abused make the man watching feel more powerful? Is it a result of a mass scarification on Western society by a misogynistic religious upbringing?

I think that if sexuality was more of an open subject, we wouldn’t have such overtly misogynistic material in the adult film industry. But because today’s society is still very much run by Christian morals and beliefs, sexuality continues to be a closed subject and as such, porn and the sex industry in general is able to get away with much more because its not a topic that can be discussed in an open forum.

By exploring these issues, not censoring them, we can start to heal the damage that has been done to our psyches as a mass in this area.

I believe that sexuality is female trait. As a woman, there is no real way to escape this reality. We are, on a daily basis, reminded that most men see us as sex objects and that is a very important part of our roles as women to men.

In any job, whether it is of a sexual nature or not, as a woman you will be sexually harassed. As a mass generalization some women try to avoid this by dressing or acting more masculine, whereas some of us learn to use our sexuality as a tool.

I believe that a woman’s sexuality is the one potent weapon we have over the reigning white patriarchal leaders. Sex is almost every man’s one major weakness.

The same way that men use aggression to manipulate and dominate other men and women, women can use their sexuality to manipulate and dominate men.

Healthy sexuality empowers women. Period.

I think most men know and realize this. I think its another major reason why misogyny rules the mainstream porno market. They are scared and they are trying to beat us at our own game in our own arena.

It hasn’t always been this way. Before Christianity, monotheism and patriarchy there was goddess worship, sacred harlots and temples dedicated to sex. The planet was a much different place back then; sexuality and hedonistic practices were used to honor the divine, you could learn about sex at your local temple and prostitutes were considered holy. It was a much easier and safer place to get laid. Ahh the good old days…

In your article you stated that women are reducing themselves by being sexual objects for men’s masturbation. I have done a wide range of work in the sex industry. Never at one point did I feel like I reduced myself at all. My work felt like an addition to my being. I felt proud of my photos, videos and live performances. Especially of the work I did on AbbyWinters.com, IShotMyself.com, IFeelMyself.com and BeautifulAgony.com

Being an adult entertainment performer has empowered me to say the least. It has enabled me to be more open about my sexuality. It has also made me much more confident as a person. Because my sexuality is out there for anyone to see on the World Wide Web, I feel that in life I can move forward with confidence and with an attitude that I have nothing to hide. And don’t get me started on how dancing naked on stage for a crowd of people can improve your self esteem…

You also state that at the end of the day its about what the men want to watch. Is this not the basis for any business in any industry? It is always about what the consumer wants. Again, if sexuality was seen as a more serious subject, it would therefore be seen as another serious area of business. But is misogynistic imagery what most men really want to see? Or has the market been so saturated, until now, that that is all they have to watch? Or is it another issue with masculinity altogether, do our men need to be taught that power does not hold an appropriate place in the bedroom?

Again, if we held open discussions about sexuality, pornography and all of the issues that effect them, these questions could be answered and wouldn’t be such a mystery.

No AbbyWinters.com is not a fully owned and operated female company (as they project and would like the public to think), not all of their practices are completely feminist or supportive of women, and yes at the end of they day they are still producing images for men to masturbate over.

However, what they are doing, what they’ve been doing and the statement they made at the AEE is still one big step forward for women, especially in the adult film industry. They are making a huge difference.

One day I would like to see an adult film company (and maybe even strip club…) that was really female owned and operated that used feminism and matriarchal principles in its everyday practice (would anybody like to fund me?).

At the end of your article you state: “Political judgments also are not only possible but necessary — if we are to resist male supremacy, reject the subordination of women in all its forms, and replace that corrosive conception of gender and sex with a vision of human integrity and community that can be the basis for a just and sustainable society.”

I think the subordination of women will continue to exist until sexuality is valued, revered and honored. Until we can discuss sexuality as a serious subject and something to be shown openly we will continue to have trashy, misogynistic porno as the set standard.

And who wants that?

-Sequoia Redd

Con él te puedes ir a un concierto y reírte de los malos polvos que echó. Con él te puedes reír del bdsm y asustarlo con tu dominación de juguete, con los juguetes que tienes, con las fotografías, con tus fantasías y sesiones. Jugar a violentar su conciencia igualitaria. Aprovechar su capacidad pene-trativa para intentar aprender a orgasmar vaginalmente. Puedes desayunar y charlar. Puedes escuchar y relajarte. Puedes aprender una rara camaradería varón hetero-mujer bisexual. Cerveza, ron, licores y mujeres. De eso hablamos. De música y mujeres ¿Acaso es que hay algo más?